Feel the value of what you've built.
Value-Based Marriage is a coaching program and upcoming book by Scott Molluso, built on one idea: when the value you feel inside your marriage outweighs what you think you're missing, you live in contentment.
The scale inside you
Everyone carries a quiet scale. On one side, what your marriage gives you. On the other, what you think you're missing.
When you stop feeling the value of what you have, the other side starts to look heavier. Fantasy grows, distance grows, and good marriages slowly come apart.
Willpower doesn't fix that. Feeling the value again does.
Faith-based. Value-based.
People know a faith-based marriage. A value-based marriage rests on two kinds of value, open to any faith or none.
The values you hold
What the two of you choose to stand for and protect, written down as your Our Ten.
The value you feel
What your marriage gives you every day, noticed and named instead of taken for granted.
Living the first is what creates the second.
The program
A guided path for couples, drawn from Scott's training in Spiritual Psychology.
- 01
Write Our Ten
Define the ten values your marriage stands on: we value ___, so we ___.
Start your Ten - 02
Feel the value daily
A nightly check-in for feelings, appreciation, needs and ownership.
- 03
Practice the Couples Trio
One shares, one listens, and a neutral observer helps you both see clearly.
- 04
Tend the scale
Notice drift early, set boundaries as acts of love, and repair quickly.
Work with Scott
Private couples coaching
Sessions with Scott as your neutral observer, working through the program at your pace.
Group program
A small group of couples moving through the program together, guided by Scott.
Apply for coaching
Scott reads every application and replies personally.
About Scott
Scott Molluso graduated from the University of Santa Monica's Spiritual Psychology program in 2007 and served as an assistant in the program for the next five years, supporting students through its practices.
Value-Based Marriage brings those principles into the place where they are tested most: the daily life of a marriage.
Standing on their shoulders
Value-Based Marriage isn't a new discovery. It brings together ideas that have helped couples for decades, and credits them wherever they appear.
Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick
University of Santa Monica
Spiritual Psychology, the trio, and compassionate self-forgiveness.
Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks
Conscious Loving
Both partners at 100%, with no blame and no keeping score.
Mark and Debbie Laaser
Shattered Vows
The FANOS check-in behind the nightly check-in.
Value-Based Marriage is independent and is not affiliated with or endorsed by these authors or organizations.
The book is coming
Value-Based Marriage, the book, walks through the whole path in eight parts.
- Part 1The Value Equation
- Part 2Feeling the Value
- Part 3Raising the Value
- Part 4Tending the Scale
- Part 5When Addiction Is in the Marriage
- Part 6Contentment
- Part 7When It's Time to Let Go
- Part 8Choosing a Value-Based Partner
Be the first to know when it's out.
Value-Based Marriage
Scott Molluso